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The Ethical Slut: A Guide to Infinite Sexual Possibilities

By: Dossie Easton, Catherine A. Liszt
1998
288 pages

ISBN: 1890159018

Review:
This book is generally considered to be the bible for open and polyamorous relationships, this book explores what it means to love and/ or lust-after multiple persons and still maintain sane, happy relationships with everyone involved. The authors call it as they see it. The language is plain, simple and frank. (They sometimes get wrapped up in being politically correct, but it doesn't take away too much.) The book isn't specific to any one queer community, and you may not agree with everything the authors say (nor are you expected to agree) -- but it'll help you think about yourself and your relationships in fresh, new ways. A must-read for anyone in an open or poly relationship.

BearBook: #068  
Entered:
April 19, 2003 by cg


The Ethical Slut: A Guide to Infinite Sexual Possibilities

By: Dossie Easton, Catherine A. Liszt
1998
288 pages

ISBN: 1890159018

Review:
What does a book written by two bisexual women have to do with bears? Plenty! Although the book is often called "The Bible of polyamory," it's not just for folks who want to love multiple partners. It's useful for any kind of relationship. The authors write in simple, light-hearted, non-preachy language about topics like jealousy, effective communication, sexual honesty and many more topics. A must for anyone in an open relationship. or who's simply curious about the complexities of love and communication.

BearBook: #071  
Entered:
June 17, 2003 by dwc


Fairy Tales: Traditional Tales Retold for Gay Men

By: Peter Cashorali, Robert H. Hopcke
March 1997
181 pages
Paperback

ISBN: 0062513095

Review:
Using the magical and mythic language of classic stories from around the world, Fairy Tales takes familiar myths and folktales and turns them into stories about men coming out, learning to trust themselves, looking for and finding love, facing AIDS, and helping those they love.

BearBook: #011  
Entered:
January 20, 1999 by dwc


Finding True Love in a Man-Eat-Man World: The Intelligent Guide to Gay Dating, Sex, Romance, and Eternal Love

By: Craig Nelson
February 1996
298 pages
Paperback

ISBN: 0440506891

Review:
Nelson draws both on his interviews with other men and on his own experiences in the gay dating scene to present this revealing and often humorous guide. From breaking down psychological blocks to surviving a breakup, Nelson explores the key issues in gay male relationships and the baggage left over from adolescence.

BearBook: #013  
Entered:
January 20, 1999 by dwc


If the Buddha Dated: A Handbook for Finding Love on a Spiritual Path

By: Charlotte Kasl
1999
212 pages

ISBN: 0140195831

Review:
Appicable to bears as well... there is even a section on same sex relationships- a fascinating blend of traditions- Sufi, Christian, Buddhist and others into a book that works...takes a lot of the 'ology' out of it.

BearBook: #066  
Entered:
April 23, 2002 by cg


Love Between Men: Enhancing Intimacy and Keeping Your Relationship Alive

By: Rik Isensee
May 1996
223 pages
Paperback

ISBN: 1555833624

Review:
Booklist called this "a welcome addition to practical gay literature". David McWhirter and Andrew Mattison, authors of The Male Couple, say it's "must reading for all male couples", while Michael Shernoff of the National Lesbian/Gay Health Foundation, says it's "bound to become a classic".

BearBook: #024  
Entered:
August 24, 1999 by dwc


The Male Couple: How Relationships Develop

By: David P. McWhirter, M.D. & Andrew M. Mattison, M.S.W., Ph.D.
Paperback

ISBN: 0135475635

Review:
This book discusses long-term male relationships. I found it to be very interesting in that their descriptions of how relationships develop seemed to echo several couples I know in long-term relationships (up to decades). They also discuss topics such as monogamy exceedingly well, without becoming judgemental either way, and present examples of successful long-term relationships.

This book is out of print, but Amazon will attempt to search for it.

BearBook: #026  
Entered:
December 29, 1998 by RAD


Moving On: the gay man's guide for coping when a relationship ends

By: Dann Hazel
May 1999
288 pages
Hardcover

ISBN: 1575663783

Review:
Filled with sensible, heartfelt advice from someone who's been there and bounced back, this guide has been designed specifically for the gay man who is undergoing--or has undergone--the breakup of a loving partnership.

BearBook: #030  
Entered:
May 4, 1999 by dwc


Now That You Know: A Parents' Guide to Understanding Their Gay and Lesbian Children

By: Betty Fairchild & Nancy Hayward
1998, 3rd ed.
288 pages
Paperback

ISBN: 0156006057

Review:
This pro-gay/pro-family book is meant to help parents come to grips with with child's non-heterosexuality. While I didn't agree with everything the book said, it's still says a lot that parents would need to hear. I doubt it would magically change the minds or feelings of homophobic parents, but the book provides a way for communication to start.

BearBook: #033  
Entered:
December 29, 1998 by RAD


Soul Mates: Honoring the Mysteries of Love and Relationship

By: Thomas Moore
November 1994
288 pages
Paperback

ISBN: 0060925752

Review:
Excellent insight and reflection into the mystery of soul. Insights gleaned by Moore lead you on your own personal journey and reflection of your soul and its relationships. Frees you from the to-do-lists of self helpism and let your imagination and creativity lead you to a natural healing. A must read for people bound by conventional relationships and yet yearning for soulful connections.

BearBook: #038  
Entered:
January 20, 1999 by dwc


When Love Lasts Forever: Male Couples Celebrate Commitment

By: Merle J. Yost
June, 1999
tbd pages
Hardcover

ISBN: 0829813322

Review:
Cannot retrieve review file!

BearBook: #044  
Entered:
August 2, 1999 by dwc


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